The older folks all showed their disdain for Lin Fan. A guy like him, from a rural area with no Yun City residency, obviously poor just by his clothes, would never be considered to marry their daughters.
Unfortunately, Lin Fan once again became the "bad example."
"Everyone take a good look, finding a son-in-law shouldnât be like him!"
The older folks spread the word.
In fact, in this matchmaking corner, everyone had their own little plans. On one hand, they were anxious about their childrenâs major life events; on the other hand, they had various requirements for future sons-in-law or daughters-in-law.
A good job, city residency, house, car, and savings are all basics; otherwise, theyâre not worthy of their children.
Especially for the parents of girls, money is generally their first criterion for a son-in-law. If thereâs money, then theyâre willing to discuss further.
In their eyes, Lin Fan ticked all the wrong boxes: no money, no good job, no city residency...
So when Lin Fan said he was waiting for a beautiful girl, no one believed him; they all thought he was bragging.
A poor guy like Lin Fan, could a beauty possibly take a liking to him?
When Wei Yueâer showed up, all the older folks were stunned. Damn, Lin Fan really was waiting for a beauty, and she was stunning, even more beautiful than Old Liâs daughter!
Compared to Wei Yueâer, Old Liâs daughter suddenly seemed like a maid.
"Goodness, this girl is so pretty, how did she fancy such a poor guy!"
"Sheâs still too young; you canât just look at looks when choosing a partner, you have to consider family status!"
"Exactly, good thing sheâs not my daughter. If my daughter found a poor person, Iâd break her legs."
The older folks gossiped relentlessly.
Wei Yueâer just arrived and didnât know what was going on. She frowned and asked Lin Fan, "What are they talking about?"
Lin Fan smiled and said, "Nothing, donât mind them. Letâs go."
"Okay." Wei Yueâer nodded. If Lin Fan said not to mind it, then she wouldnât. She listened to Lin Fan.
So the two prepared to leave.
"Why!"
Little Chen suddenly exclaimed, his emotions somewhat agitated.
Seeing Lin Fan with such a beautiful girlfriend was too heartbreaking for him, and he couldnât help but break down.
Little Chen is in his thirties, has city residency, his parents are teachers, he received a good education since childhood, studied hard, finished his Ph.D., joined Brother Gu to work, and later returned to Yun City to become a teacher. He dabbles in side businesses, earning 50 thousand a month.
Yet, he still canât find a partner. No girl is interested in him.
He pondered over the reason: earning 50 thousand a month is certainly not low; many people still earn 3 thousand a month. Earning 50 thousand can be considered excellent. However, this excellence only holds when compared downward. When compared upward, heâs nothing special.
This comparison upward refers to those with houses, cars, and million-dollar annual salaries, the societal elites.
Compared to those societal elites, Little Chen indeed is nothing.
This is one reason. Another reason is his looks. Heâs chubby and not handsome, at best an ordinary face.
Nowadays, girls either like handsome guys or rich guys. Heâs neither handsome nor extremely wealthy, which puts him in an awkward position. Pleasing neither side means he remains single.
However!
No matter how inadequate he may be, he still earns 50 thousand a month and has Yun City residency, better than many, better than a rural hick like Lin Fan.
Seeing Lin Fan having a girlfriend while he doesnât made him a bit overwhelmed. Ultimately, he looked down on Lin Fan.
In the matchmaking corner, there exists a hierarchy of disdain. Perhaps the people involved donât even realize it. They all have a scale in their hearts, with people they value on one side and people they look down on on the other.
Simply put, they are full of discrimination against those they look down on!
Discrimination!
This is the word. Discrimination is everywhere, even if people loudly advocate political correctness and anti-discrimination. Discrimination is like a gene, ingrained in everyoneâs bones.
For instance, someone might feel a sense of superiority seeing cleaners, delivery workers, or couriers. Thatâs the work of the discrimination gene.
In this matchmaking corner, discrimination is especially severe, perhaps the older folks themselves havenât noticed.
Little Chen came to the matchmaking corner with his mother, and he too had a scale. Lin Fan was his object of disdain.
An object of his disdain having a goddess-like friend understandably agitated and overwhelmed him.
For a moment, everyone turned to look at Little Chen.
Itâs fair to say that all the older folks present emphatically understood Little Chenâs feeling of devastation because Lin Fan was the object of discrimination for all of them. Lin Fan, this rural hick, was at the bottom of the disdain hierarchy.
"Stop right there! Why do you have a girlfriend, and I donât! Why! What do you like about him? I earn 50 thousand a month; why doesnât anyone like me!"
Little Chen shouted in agony.
This scene left Wei Yueâer dumbfounded. She pointed a finger at herself, "Are you talking to me?"
Lin Fan, however, saw through everything and smiled, "Buddy, no need to get so worked up. Finding a partner isnât something that can be measured. Some say, with enough money, youâll definitely have a partner, but thatâs not always true. Many poor people have partners, and many wealthy people are still bachelors, so money isnât a measure. Some also say, if youâre good-looking, youâll definitely have a partner, but thatâs not always true. Plenty of average or even unattractive people have partners, while some good-looking ones remain single, so looks also canât measure these things."
"At its core, having a partner boils down to two issues: opportunity and attitude. You might just not have met someone yet, and then thereâs how many requirements you have for a partner."
"The first issue is simple to solve. If thereâs no opportunity, you need to create more. Make more friends, meet more people, even go on more blind dates. With enough opportunities, you might meet someone you love."
"The second issue is much harder. Attitude isnât something that changes easily, and everyone present has an attitude issue. You have too many additional requirements for a partner: house, car, savings, good looks, good job, city residency. Youâve set up so many hurdles in your mind, filtering out most people. Thatâs an attitude problem."
"From my perspective, two people togetherâeverything else material is external. As long as you truly love each other, fascinated by and appreciating each other, thatâs the most important thing and should be the only requirement."
"Take a look at yourselves. Everyoneâs holding a sign with houses, cars, residency. All sorts of things except love, except heart. Itâs like a large livestock trading market. Even if you find someone meeting your criteria, is your child really going to be happy."
Lin Fan casually said, but his words left everyone stunned, and for a moment, silence fell around.